DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 years. In all this time he has by no means as soon as requested me if I’m OK each time I’ve gotten harm. I received used to it, you would possibly say. Effectively, I lately misplaced the power to stroll, and ended up in a nursing residence for rehabilitation. My boyfriend would come to go to, however would by no means ask about progress. Moreover, once I would present him my progress he wouldn’t act glad.
Now I’m residence, and he treats me like rubbish. I don’t know why. Once I introduced it up, he stated he doesn’t know why. Ought to I finish this relationship so I can discover somebody who’s supportive and who will assist me get again to 100%? Or ought to I keep and work on this relationship? I’m much less and fewer glad day by day. — HURTING IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR HURTING: Your boyfriend of 11 years just isn’t a nurturer. That he doesn’t ask if you’re harm or injured reveals he lacks empathy. If I needed to hazard a guess, I’d opine that he treats you want rubbish now as a result of he’s mad at you for needing his assist and help. No quantity of engaged on this may repair what’s lacking in his character. Until you wish to be handled like this for the remainder of your life, do away with him.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve a co-worker I share an workplace with. We’re cordial, however not associates. The issue is she chews gum many of the day along with her mouth open, and sometimes pops it. The noises she makes are extraordinarily disturbing and so they disgust me. I’ve taken to carrying headphones and listening to music as typically as doable to tune out her noises, however it feels a bit impolite and isn’t sensible for all day. I’m on the verge of snapping at her. Is there a sort approach I can alert her of the issue with out disrupting our working relationship? — ABOUT TO POP OFF
DEAR POP: Have a congenial chat with this co-worker and ask her to let when she’s going to pop in a chunk of gum so you may pop in your headphones. It beats popping your cork in frustration.
DEAR ABBY: I’m associates with a person in his late 70s, 20 years my senior. I’m involved about his mobility. He’s an impartial spirit who lives alone. Currently, I’ve seen his power and stability are diminished, and I do know falls are critical for seniors. I’ve shared my worries with him, however he’s proud and received’t change his habits. Are you able to advocate a approach I can discuss to him constructively about my issues? — YOUNGER GUY IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR YOUNGER GUY: You may have already tried discussing this together with your buddy. You would possibly be capable of get by way of to him in case you TELL him you have got seen his stability points, and that there’s assist for them IF he tells his physician what’s been occurring. A bodily therapist could possibly assist him treatment his drawback, however provided that he asks.